How to Develop Your Psychic Skills – Part 4

In this series, we’re working on developing our psychic skills, which means our ability to communicate with our soul (our psyche). If you want to become a skilled psychic, you must be grounded in the basic skills of discipline, focus, stillness, and visualization.

As you learn to develop a strong connection with your soul, you also become more consciously aware of your connection with the Essence of Life, All that Is. Your soul connection is what gives you the ability to discover information about the past, the future, other places in the here and now. Just as you might ask a librarian for a book on a particular topic, your soul knows right where it is and retrieve it for you. Being grounded in the basic skills of discipline, focus, stillness, and visualization is what helps you to learn how to read the information and how to  integrate what you’ve learned into your own life.


In the past three weeks, you’ve been working on your practices for breathing and meditation as a way of developing focus and discipline. You’ve also been working on visualization through candle gazing and clairvoyance exercises.

I recommend keeping a journal or notebook. After each practice, write down your experiences, your feelings, and your thoughts. Begin to keep track of symbols that occur over and over again. They may be visual (a picnic basket) or auditory (a fragment of a song), you might notice the scent of lilacs, or the sensation of a drop of water on the back of your hand, you might experience the taste of fresh baked bread. It might be a word, a symbol, or a color. Track them and note down what it seems like they mean to you. I want to emphasize – to you! Don’t look them up in a book of symbols. You are going to create your own unique, personal book of symbols which is one of the ways that Spirit communicates with you.


A daily breathing practice will keep you connected to your body. When you are focused on your breath, your mind cannot be running wild thinking about the list of things you need to do, or an argument you want to have with a coworker, or the beautiful walk you took yesterday along the river.

Focusing on your breath means you are focused in your body and in the present moment. You will receive communication when you are in your body and in the present moment. The communication may be through one of the five senses or through your emotions. If you aren’t there and present – you’ll miss the message.


Sit. Become still. Follow your breath as it moves in to nourish your lungs and then out to nourish the world. Understand that your breath is an exchange of life force.

Breathe in life – breathe in light – let it fill you until you are overflowing. Then breathe out your pain, your fear, your anger, your despair. Breathe it out and see it as transformed by Life and Light. Continue for at least 5 minutes.


Breathe in the pain of the world. Breathe in the pain of the people in your daily life. Breathe in the pain of your work colleagues, the people riding alongside you on the bus, the strangers you may hear about or read about. Breathe in their fear, their anger, their despair. And allow the Light and Life within you to transform it all. What do you wish for them – peace? solace? healing? joy? Breathe that out into the world. Be the alchemist who is unafraid, who trusts their strength. Continue for at least 5 minutes.

If you feel it’s necessary, return to the phase of breathing in life and light.



Continue to meditate – every day. Set a timer for five minutes and increase it by one minute each day until you are meditating for 15 to 20 minutes a day. You can do it in one session or break it into two sessions.

Meditation is not about stopping your thoughts. It’s not about judging your thoughts. It’s a gentle practice of simply sitting and staying. Pema Chodron says to treat ourselves like small, beloved puppies. As our thoughts wander away we bring them back to whatever our focus point is and we gently and kindly say to ourselves, stay. Just stay. Stay sitting here.

Observe your thoughts as if they are clouds crossing the sky. Don’t hang on to them, don’t push them away. Simply observe. And when your mind wanders away, bring it gently back and remind it, stay.

Stay with no goal other than to be there observing, not thinking, not judging, just being.


Although we’re moving away from the candle practice in this post, it doesn’t mean that you should stop it. Keep it in your schedule of psychic skills to practice regularly.

For the next few weeks, continue to use a deck of playing cards that you probably have in your home or can easily pick up at a local store.

Be patient.  Be Kind.  Do Not Get Annoyed & Judgey with Yourself!!!


This week we’ll expand from simply focusing on the color of the card to adding in the suit of the card. If that feels like too much pressure, just step back and continue to focus on the color only.

If you find yourself getting frustrated and angry – don’t do this practice. It’s not for you right now. Continue with one of the candle gazing exercises in parts one and two of this series.

  • Take your regular playing card deck, shuffle the cards thoroughly, lay the deck face down, and gently focus your attention on the top card.
  • Using your imagination, notice the color or suit you see in your mind).
  • Turn the card over. If you imagined the color of that card, put it in one pile. If you imagined a different color, put it in another pile.
  • Continue with as much of the deck as you feel comfortable. It might be three cards or it might be the whole deck.
  • As soon as you feel frustrated or competitive, stop. This is a gentle process. The more relaxed you are, the more likely you are to begin to key into your clairvoyant skills. Approach this practice with curiosity and a sense of play.
  • This week, focus on either the color or suit you see in your mind.

If you have any questions about what you’re learning here, please leave them in the comments below and I can address them in a post. If you want more direct assistance, you can contact me with specific questions.


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