How to Develop Your Psychic Skills – Part 1

So, what’s a psychic anyway?

I’m a word nerd, so I always look at the etymology of a word when I want to understand it in a way that isn’t just skimming the surface and I find that psychic comes from the Greek psukhē which means, breath, life, soul. In the Old Testament the word in Hebrew is ruach which also means breath, spirit, and in come cases it is one of the names of God.

The simplest way to understanding psychic skills is that you are communicating with your soul. And your soul always sees the bigger picture, is connected to everything through the web of the Essence of Life to what some call the Field and others call Source and others call God/dess. You are receiving information they way you might ask a librarian for a book on a particular topic. She’ll know where it is and retrieve it for you – and it’s up to you to learn how to read it and how to  integrate what you’ve learned.

Over the next weeks, I’ll be writing specifically about different tools to learn to develop your psychic skills and it all starts with psukhē, ruach, the breath.


We all breathe, Most of us breathe unconsciously with very little awareness. Take a moment right now – read the questions and observe your breath.

  • is your breath shallow or deep?
  • Is it fast or slow?
  • Do you breathe into your chest or do you breathe down into your belly.

Did you do it or did you rush through just reading it? If you just rushed through, I recommend that you go back and do this tiny little exercise, because if you’re not willing to take the time to become aware of your breath, nothing else will follow.

I’m guessing that you noticed that as soon as you began to observe your breath, it changed. Most likely it changed to what you thought it ‘should’ be. It will be helpful for you to understand there is no one ‘right’ way to breathe, like everything in life, you use a particular breath to get a particular result. And right now, the first step is awareness.

Practice: set a timer for 3 minutes and simply observe your breath. You’re not meditating, you are focusing. You are learning to pay deep attention. This is you making an effort to learn a new skill – the skill of observing your breath. Feel it move through your nostrils and down into your lungs, feel that way you chest and abdomen rise and fall. Get to know what your breath feels like.

Do this every day for at least a week. Perhaps increase the time by 2 minutes every few days. At the end of your breathing practice, write some notes about your experience – what did you notice? what were you thinking? what were you feeling in your body? what were you feeling in your emotions?

I’ll offer more breathing techniques in future posts, but the first step is always awareness. Get to know your breath. Learn to enjoy it. Be willing to let your breath teach you more about you.


davidbrookemartinWhile breathing practice is about focusing your attention, meditation is often all about letting it go. Not working at all, simply allowing whatever is happening outside of you — the sounds of the refrigerator, the sensation of the sun moving across your hand, the smell of your neighbor cooking with garlic, the sudden rise of anger, frustration, joy, or peace. You notice it, name it, and let it go. Many teachers suggest you consider your thoughts like clouds moving across the sky. Sometimes they move quickly, sometimes the lumber along. Sometimes it feels as though they will never move. And the sky holds on to none of it. Like you, the sky observes the clouds. Like the sky, you do not need to cling to your thoughts.

If you already have a meditation practice, simply continue it. No change is necessary – like breathing practice it is a form of awareness that will be key as you move into developing your psychic skills, your communication with your soul.

If you don’t have a meditation practice, I recommend you begin one. Like breathing, meditation is key to developing your psychic skills – and beyond that, to improving your physical, mental, and emotional health.

I have some suggestions below for information on how to start a meditation practice in the Resources section or you can contact me for more personal suggestions.

Candle Gazing

Candle gazing, like breathing practice and meditation, is an ancient skill used to quiet the mind, become focused in the body, and to develop your awareness. Have you ever gazed into the flames of a woodstove or a bonfire? Just like we sometimes see images in clouds we can also see images in fire. That’s not the goal of the initial candle gazing practice but is a possibility as you develop your practice.

Assume a comfortable seated position. Light a candle and place it two feet in front of you, with the flame positioned at eye level. Make sure the lighting is dim, close any windows if there is a breeze coming in and turn off any fans.

  1. Begin with your breathing practice until you feel centered in your body. 
  2. Open your eyes and rest your gaze on the middle part of the flame, right above the tip of the wick. Keep your eyes focused on that point for 3 minutes.
  3. Close your eyes again and observe the afterimage of the flame in your mind’s eye until the impression disappears. 
  4. You can repeat steps 2 and 3 up to two more times. You can also increase the time that you focus on the flame up to 5 minutes.

When you are finished, write some notes about your experience – what did you notice? what were you thinking? what were you feeling in your body? what were you feeling in your emotions?


I use Insight Timer, an app that’s available in both the Apple store and Google Play. (this isn’t an affiliate link – I just really love the product and the many ways it’s improved and grown over the years). This app is one of my most valuable practical spirituality tech tools.

  • Anything by Pema Chodron is worth reading for a thousand different reasons and most of her books include meditations. Specifically, How To Meditate is a great place to start.
  • Practical Meditation for Beginners: 10 Days to a Happier, Calmer You is written by Benjamin Decker and offers 10 different meditation techniques so that you can choose which one works best for you.
  • Right now, the Shift Network is offering a class, Awakening Your Third Eye with Raja Choudhury. You can check out the free introductory webinar and see if it is interesting to you.

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